Let’s get straight to the point here - are you or not? For some women it’s the night sweats and hot flushes that are the giveaway. For others, not a drop of wetness shall pass, it’s all about overwhelming anxiety and fatigue. None of the signs are wonderful – there’s not a single super power listed among them – but it’s handy to have a list to check, just for starters.
These are the 34 signs that you really are menopausal:
Allergies Any you have seem stronger than usual.
Anxiety and stress
Body odour changes Sweating more, and a change in your ‘normal smell’.
Burning tongue or dry mouth
Electric shocks Under their skin.
Gastrointestinal problems This can be gas, cramping, and nausea
Hair changes More facial hair, but thinning hair elsewhere.
Headaches Especially at the start of the menopause
Irregular, pounding heartbeat
Irregular menstrual cycle
Loss of libido
So far, so horrifying.
Before you start Googling, I have saved you the bother. I typed: “What is the menopause?” into Google, and waited to see what it said. In 0.61 seconds it offered me 24,300,000 answers. Technically speaking, according to nhs.uk, “The menopause is when a woman stops having periods and is no longer able to get pregnant naturally. ... The menopause is a natural part of ageing that usually occurs between 45 and 55 years of age, as a woman's oestrogen levels decline. In the UK, the average age for a woman to reach the menopause is 51.”
Mean anything to you? No, me neither. It’s about as useful as reading a biology book at school to understand why you feel wretched once a month. That’s the theory, so what’s in like in practice? Like anything, each one of us will experience the build up to the menopause in our own unique way. While there will be some uniting factors, (getting hot, sweaty, anxious and grumpy seem to be the main ones), there are a whole host of symptoms and experiences that come under the umbrella term of ‘menopause’.
According to BUPA, the build up to reaching the actual menopause can take years. The website states:
The menopause is a natural change in a woman’s life; it happens when your ovaries stop producing eggs. Your ovaries also make the hormone oestrogen (a chemical substance). So when they stop working, there’s a drop in your blood level of this hormone. This change disrupts your periods and causes the symptoms associated with the menopause.
The menopause usually happens gradually. For a few years before the menopause, your periods may become irregular, happening more or less often than they used to. You may also have slightly heavier periods. This stage is called the perimenopause and can last for about four years. You can still become pregnant while going through the perimenopause, so you need to keep using contraception if you don’t want to get pregnant. Doctors usually recommend stopping contraception at 55, because most women are in the menopause by this age.
You’re said to have reached the menopause if you haven’t had a period for at least a year. When the menopause happens before the age of 40, it's considered to be premature (early) menopause. An early menopause can happen naturally because your ovaries stop working. But it can also happen if you’ve had one or both of your ovaries removed as part of a hysterectomy (an operation to remove your womb). [https://www.bupa.co.uk/health-information/directory/m/menopause]
My advice would be to start keeping a diary of your symptoms. That way, when you visit your GP you have a comprehensive list of dates, of physical and mental symptoms to look back on, which will help you both decide which is best way to move forward. There are great menopause Apps out there to help you too: Menopause Diary 2, Menopause View and Hot Flash Sisters are just three that I’ve come across. I haven’t used any of them so I can’t vouch for them personally, but they could be worth a shot. Other than that, you can’t beat notes in your phone or scribbles in your diary or notebook. Whichever works best for you.
Whatever you decide to do from here, don’t panic. It’s all going to be OK.
Partly extracted from https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confessions-Menopausal-Woman-Everything-afraid/dp/0593080262