Imagine you’re minding your own business at the gym and a random stranger, a man, comes up to you and asks what work out you’ve been doing. “Err… cycling” you reply, and he then tells you, unprompted, that he’s seen you in working out and he always thinks: “Ah, what a shame, she could look so amazing…” and follows up with what things you could do to improve your body. You’ve just been embarrassed, humiliated and in today’s language ‘body shamed’ while minding your own business and bothering no-one.
Some of us would have scurried out, skin crawling and morale on the floor, others would have given him a piece of their mind – he clearly needs the extra brain power. British actress Jameela Jamil didn’t – when this exactscenario happened to her, she took to twitter to tell the world and give her advice to anyone thinking of doing the same.
“Don’t do that”she said, as she filmed herself on her phone. “Don’t walk up to someone and impose your belief on what you think they should look like onto them. Don’t do that to women. Don’t do it to anyone. Ever. This is why I think so many people who want to exercise don’t, cos they’re afraid of being judged at the gym. I don’t like walking around now, thinking that people are looking at me and analysing and thinking what I should or shouldn’t look like. Fuck those people. Fuck those people. Don’t stop yourself going to the gym because these stupid people, who they themselves are clearly slightly insecure which is why they are even thinking about it like that. If they are thinking about you like that, they are thinking about themselves like that. Fuck those people. Don’t walk up to people and say these things. Don’t bother anyone in a gym. They’re there for their own reasons, their own private reasons, be that aesthetic, or be that psychological. I exercise for anxiety. I am alright with the fact that I am somewhat of a memory-foam woman. I am comfortable. I enjoy my body. I enjoy my curves. I am also by the way a US size 6 to 8. So if that’s how I am being spoken to in a gym, you can imagine what people say to people who are larger than that. What the fuck is this? No one needs this. I don’t need this man. To that man – don’t walk up to anyone, don’t walk up to a woman ever again and say anything like that. I don’t need your advice. I don’t want your advice, I didn’t ask for your advice as to whether or not you think I’m good looking enough… Just, fuck off.”
She’s said it all.
And that’s why we love her.